I’m an ACSW who, like my colleagues, was taught that the only way to work with gender dysphoria is to affirm. Then, I got into practice, and slowly I realized that the experience of gender dysphoria isn’t just one thing, and there is often deep trauma and/or other factors (i.e. autism) underlying the experience. I started to see that even those who have a positive experience with transition tend to have a layer of grief around the parts of their identity that they’ve lost or the ways in which medical intervention has altered their bodies. Often, there’s a deep sense of shame around this, and a feeling that one is betraying their “community” if they speak up. I have also worked with AGP clients, who are left out of the conversation entirely. After awhile, I did a deep dive on the history of gender theory and emerged with the clear sense that our current model is not only deeply flawed, but totally incorrect. This exploration is what led me to deep empathy for and desire to work with those who feel left behind by the current “care” model.
In general, my approach with clients is about trying to identify and take off stories we have about ourselves and the world and really ask– is this belief producing clarity or chaos within me? We work together to identify opportunities to build adaptive habits and, slowly but surely, move towards healing. I blend parts work (IFS), EMDR, and somatic attachment work to develop an approach tailored to each client and their individual goals. If this resonates, let’s talk! I’m always happy to do a free consultation and make sure that we’d be a good fit. In addition to working with individuals struggling with transition, I am also able to support parents whose children may be struggling with gender dysphoria.
Please note that due to licensing regulations in the United States, I am currently unable to provide services to clients residing outside of California.